I was volunteering with a program that has presenters go to schools and teach for four days in segments about the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships, and how to get yourself out of unhealthy relationships safely (battered women’s/men’s shelters, police, etc).
My first presentation day occurred just before CB & R broke out in the news. The second day, I was driving to the school and was listening to WNCI and there it was. All the students heard about it. All of them were enraged or observing others’ outrage. “Nuh uh, oh no he di’n’t.” 1 out of 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. That means out of those 20 kids, of which there were probably 12 girls, three of them will likely be abused by someone they know.
We had a speaker who told her experience about surviving domestic violence — let me tell you, it was a terrifying experience to even hear about. It’s the kind of experience that makes your stomach curdle. One of the girls identified with the speaker and the speaker could see it all over the girl’s face and reactions. That she was able to connect with the speaker is amazing, but that it should be necessary to get that girl out of a bad situation is sad. Truly sad.
My point is, I know exactly where I was when I first heard that CB had made a mess of Rihanna’s face. I know where I was when the latest president took office too. There are some things that I merely saw on TV that I will never forget. And there are somethings that a teenager, or a grown adult, saw on TV or experienced in her own life first hand, who will never forget it and it will have an impact on his or her life, whether positive or negative.
Violence addicts are no different from any other type of addicts; selfishness is volatile.Violence victims are no different from those who experience the selfishness of any other type of addict. There is help to be had and perpetrators need to have the foresight to seek that help whether they think it’s obtainable or not, whether a huge situation or small, to avoid hurting themselves and others. Those with such visibility, especially to generation (Z? where are we in the alphabet?) should be held accountable just like any ol’ average Joe or Jane.
Great article: Click here. Don’t worry, it’s a safe site.
Domestic Violence statistics, 2011: Click here.
Public lists of safe havens: Click here.